No one is born great. Some are born into privilege and resource but that doesn't make them great.
Greatness takes time and discipline. Just like the Colorado River took millions of years to carve the Grand Canyon it will take consistent behavior over time to be great at anything.
Think of something you want to be great at. It can be anything. What do the people that are great at that thing do consistently? It’s not just one thing. It’s a bunch of little things that they do really well.
I’d like to be great at making friends, but it doesn’t come naturally. I’m a little awkward and self-conscious and that keeps me from being as warm towards others as I need to be. I can also be very opinionated and that can manifest itself as complaining and criticism.
So everyday I have to remind myself to think before I speak. I have to read books and articles on how to make small talk. I have to look for the best in people at every turn so I can genuinely be warm and excited to see them. And you know what … it’s really hard.
I’ve done hard things before. Over the past 5 years I’ve done a lot of things that were hard on almost a daily basis. Every day I have had to choose to go into the gym and push myself to do things I couldn’t do before. Every day I have to choose to eat food that will add to my health rather than take away from it. Everyday requires me to do something difficult in order to reach my goal … and it has paid off.
I’m no longer overweight with high blood pressure. I left that guy behind years ago, but I’ve also moved on past just being a healthy person. I’m a healthy weight and my blood work says everything is good but I’m more than that. I am one of the fittest people I know.
I didn’t set out to be but by doing the smaller hard things everyday of nutrition and exercise I have transformed myself into a whole new person. If I can do that, I can totally be great at making friends, and you can become great at whatever it is that you want to do.
Become great at something. Challenge yourself and put your resolve to the test. Find out what you little things you need to do every day and commit to doing them. A year from now look back and see how far you've come.
Now go move better.